Posts by Sail Away

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Dating question from a bible student

by Biblestudent1 in

i have done bible study for about four months now.

the married couple who do it with me are lovely.

i have attended meetings for about two months.

Sail Away

Biblestudent1, you have received sound advice-- do your research on this site and JWFacts.com. This is a high-control group (read cult).

I will be more blunt-- run for the sake of your happiness, your sanity, your autonomy and your life!

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a month ago i travelled alone to italy for three days and i had the opportunity to visit the beautiful florence and re-visit many parts of rome.. but most importantly, i had the opportunity to stay alone and think about my situation and to make up my mind.. i've had very clear for almost 5 years that i will eventually leave the religion, but i couldn't decide when.. but now i know : i will leave on april 20th, the day after the memorial.. that day i will talk to my parents (this is by far the hardest thing to do) and soon afterwards i will talk to my closest friends, then i will send my disassociation letter.

i know that i will let them down, i will hurt them, most probably some of them will cry... but i need to live coherently for the first time in my life.

i'm sure that living in this contradiction is affecting and will affect my mental health and it's time for me to help myself instead of others.

Sail Away

Paradiseseeker, I'm glad you took some time away to find some clarity. It often takes time away from the indoctrination at meetings to see your way out. That's a big step!

I'm wondering if you need to take such a big leap though. When I first walked away, I told my COBE that I was taking as break. I didn't send a letter of resignation (I specifically did not dissociate) until years later.

Do you think you might have a better chance at maintaining family relationships if you fade? There's no need to rush-- Armageddon isn't coming tomorrow!

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This Forum. Has it changed? For the better or for the worse? Or not a at all?

by ThomasCovenant in

jw
friends

when i post i try to imagine that i am at a social gathering or sometimes in someone's house as a dinner guest.

that way it is easier to follow the community guidelines and posting rules set out on the site at the bottom of the page.

i wouldn't want to make a fool of myself in public.

Sail Away

The intelligent, thoughtful, compassionate people are still around and they post occasionally but they seem to have retreated in the face of all the anger around. I miss them.

^^This^^

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What to do when running in to a JW you know...How is this for a suggestion ?

by stuckinarut2 in

hey all,.

so i have recently seen quite a few jws that were former friends in our community.

i am always polite and say hello - although most will not acknowledge me.

Sail Away

I never play their shunning game!

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Cute: A Goose Quacked And Pecked At A Cop’s Car. When He Followed Her, He Couldn’t Believe What He Saw!

by Hecce in

officer james givens has served with the cincinnati police department for over 26 years, but has never quite experienced anything like this before.

he was sitting in his patrol car in a parking lot when he got an unexpected visitor.

a goose came up to his car and started pecking on the side of it.

Sail Away

Love this! That was one patient Mama!

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Beware of divulging any personal info on this site!

by Crazyguy2 in

hey this is crazyguy, forgot my password so this is my new name.

anyway be sure to all you new ones that if you post any personal info on this forum or respond to pms asking for email addresses this information maybe able to be used by wt spies to try and find out who you are!

someone has recently pmd me asking for my email address or more accurately to respond to his email address which would give him mine, this maybe an innocent request but this person also has no posting history.

Sail Away

The Organization has taken everything it possibly can from me. I have nothing left to lose. There is relief and freedom from having walked away cold turkey and subsequently sending a letter of resignation through my attorney. I did that so they would stop randomly showing up on my doorstep. I didn't want to be looking over my shoulder constantly.

That said this is the internet, so I am protective of what I say about my husband and family. We are all out except my FIL, but I feel only they should tell their personal stories, if and when they are ready.

Diane

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Great Announcement

by Tiana in

am a newcomer.

had a starnge metting in local news last night.. check it out.

actual info starts at 50;12. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=plxdjs13l0k.

Sail Away

I have dicey wifi today in Belize, and I hate listening to this fear-mongering crap. The usual the GT is coming soon; do more!

Of note:

Comment about focus on training in using the Bible in the ministry, not WT literature.

"New" instructions from GB for elders to have weekly contact with publishers through field service groups.

An aside, why is there a brand new KH on Caye Caulker in Belize, population 2,000? The locals here work in the tourism industry and are dirt poor.

Edit to add: I didn't listen to the propaganda interview video played in the middle of the talk. Maybe someone else can take one for the team and summarize it.

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Great Announcement

by Tiana in

am a newcomer.

had a starnge metting in local news last night.. check it out.

actual info starts at 50;12. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=plxdjs13l0k.

Sail Away

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Mind Numbing Meetings

by minimus in

jw
friends

without a doubt, jw life is boring.

and those meetings!

5 congregation meetings, meetings for field service, elders meetings, judicial meetings, meetings to figure out who was qualified to clean the toilets....🤔.

Sail Away

Yes, Zeb!

Minimus, I'll tell you how I did it-- I jeopardized my mental and physical health. The JW life nearly killed me in the six months before I walked away. I had an Intensive Out-Patient hospitalization and was was admitted to the hospital for being over-medicated for PTSD and severe, recurrent clinical depression.

It nearly killed our son and nearly destroyed my marriage.

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Mind Numbing Meetings

by minimus in

jw
friends

without a doubt, jw life is boring.

and those meetings!

5 congregation meetings, meetings for field service, elders meetings, judicial meetings, meetings to figure out who was qualified to clean the toilets....🤔.

Sail Away

How did we do it???

"Without a doubt, JW life is boring. And those meetings! 5 congregation meetings, meetings for field service". . .driving in field service and having maybe one or two dollars thrown your way to help with gas, obeying the "headship principle" at home and in the congregation, pioneering, conducting "Bible Studies", personal study, preparing insipid talks and magazine presentations, studying with our children, dressing (shopping, laundry, ironing) our children for meetings and dragging them out at night when they should be in bed or doing homework, attempting to provide a social life for your children when they were seen as "bad association" because of your "marked" "unbelieving mate", providing food for and participating in spring and fall cleanups, serving meals to C.O.s, serving meals for RBC projects for months on end during 2 mold remediation renovations and 2 complete rebuilds, volunteering at assemblies and conventions and driving the needy to same, calling on and providing meals/doing chores for the sick and elderly, vacuuming, dusting, cleaning the toilets. . . all the while working part-time "secularly" and being told it was never enough. 🤔